How To Make 2019 The Best Yet Between The Sheets
At the start of a new year it is completely normal to feel your sensuality is at a low ebb.
After all, you have just had a busy end to the previous year. You have consumed more alcohol and “treat” foods than you are used to, and you’ve been “on” at every party for the last month. No wonder you don’t feel 100 per cent.
But don’t worry. There are ways to feel more sensual and more feminine as you lean into 2019. Here’s how:
First thing’s first – it is totally okay not to feel sensual or feminine all the time. Our hormones and where we are in our cycle has a major impact on how feminine we feel. And then there are other things: you have had a bad day, your kids woke you up in the middle of the night, your hair dresser has been booked out for the past seven weeks. Don’t expect to feel sensual all the time, it’s just not possible.
You will feel a bit more desirable if you are at optimum physical health. Drinking lots of purified water, eating green vegetables and fatty-acid rich foods such as salmon and olive oil will benefit your brain and skin.
However, you will feel a bit more desirable if you are at optimum physical health. Drinking lots of purified water, eating green vegetables and fatty-acid rich foods such as salmon and olive oil will benefit your brain and skin. And when you’re switched on, you’re turned on.
Also spend some time making sure your external environment is helping you feel in the mood. Make sure your bedroom is a place for sensuality. Consider for a moment: Candlelight or fluorescent light? Soft linens or scratchy cotton sheets? Falling asleep in front of the TV or falling asleep in your lover’s arms? The second option sounds a bit more appealing, doesn’t it?
Always choose things that make you feel good. Your pleasure is paramount. And if you don’t have a lover’s arms to fall asleep into, choose a great erotic novel and get to dreaming.
Manifesting may seem a little out there, but stick with me.
Close your eyes. Now, imagine you are feeling great in your body. Imagine you are wearing a slinky dress, high heels or cotton underwear – whatever it is that makes you feel great. Now tell yourself: “I am feminine, I am sensual, I am desirable”. The more you practice this, I promise you, the more you will start to believe it.
If manifesting is not your thing (but please give it a go!) try to change your thinking by stopping any negative thoughts. When you look in the mirror the voice in your head may say: “No one wants me, I’m undesirable”. These negative thoughts are called schemas and they come to you subconsciously.
If you continue to think negative thoughts you will eventually start to believe them. Instead, when that little voice in your head says “No one wants me”, take a moment to address it. Does no one in the entire world want you? I doubt it; there are 7.5 billion people out there, so the odds are good at least a few people want you just as you are. Whenever you start to think “no one wants me”, use this thought instead: “Someone out there wants me for me”.
When you are confident you are loved and wanted, that shines through and makes you more desirable than ever.
Now you have your mindset and physical surroundings under control, it’s time to get it on – with yourself. Sensuality comes from having a certain confidence and there are two ways you can create this confidence for yourself.
Stand a little taller when you walk. I am almost six foot tall, but for years I would hunch over trying to make myself smaller (and in my mind, more feminine). Only when I started standing up straight and walking tall did I truly feel sensual in the day-to-day. Try this: stand up and walk as though someone is pulling you from your belly button. Walking this way will instantly push your shoulders back, your bum in and raise you to your natural height. Plus, it will give you a little hip wiggle with each step.
Go on, make this your best year yet!