Moving to a new city? 7 tips for a smooth transition. Cover photo credit: www.9to5chic.com
You’ve just accepted a great job in a new city – pop the champagne!! Suddenly reality strikes and the panic sets in. “Oh s***, what have I done?!”
My friend Magdalena and I are self-declared modern day nomads. Between us we have schlepped through 11 different cities, four continents and countless apartments. Over time we discovered a few secrets to help expedite the settling in process. There were also a tonne of rookie errors made.
We can’t promise it’s going to be easy to find your feet, make new friends, navigate a new workplace and find a coffee shop to rival the roast back home, but we can promise it will be one of the best experiences of your life!
Follow these seven steps and you’ll be vibin’ with your new city in no time. Word.
Moving to a new city? 7 tips for a smooth transition
Walk your hood
It’s super important to get familiar with your neighborhood. New areas are daunting and can be terrifying (especially at night) but the sooner you become acquainted, the more relaxed you’ll feel. First, locate key places to keep going back to like cafes, ATMs, gelaterias, supermarkets and late-night snack holes. Then get creative with your routes home. Try a new way every few days and you’ll get the lay of the land in no time.
Make a nest
Once you’re settled in a place, whether you live on your own or with roommates, create a space that’s just for you. Decorate your room with some fav items, photos, candles, new bedding, fairy lights, a lamb skin rug etc.
“…the world is yours for the taking.”
Have fun creating a space that’s yours so that when you’ve had a tough day, you’re feeling lonely or you just want to chill, you can retreat to your happy place.
Find your crew
The sooner you find your crew, the better.
We get it, meeting people can be the worst. It’s tiring, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s soooo much effort. But, putting in the hard yards at the start will pay dividends down the road.
“…you’ll fall in love, laugh, cry, vomit, sing, fall down, get back up again and form unbreakable bonds to last a lifetime.”
To avoid being a Nelly No Friends on Friday night leverage any connection you can through work, a random friend of a cousin’s daughter, even Facebook (LOL). Throw an awesome party, join a yoga studio, sign up to a supper club, start a book club, kill two birds and rope someone into helping you put your new IKEA furniture together. If he’s cute, strike up a convo with the dude at the coffee stop and exchange numbers. You don’t have to be BFFs but it’s a good start.
Repeat after me, “I am open to everything (within reason) and I will say ‘yes’”. Got it? Good.
Explore, be a tourist
If you can wrangle a few weeks’ vacay before starting your job, do it. Relish being a tourist because your wide eye-dness will quickly fade. One of the best parts of moving to a new city is that you’re not stuck in a routine yet so you’re free to create your own adventures.
“Each week choose a new neighbourhood to discover.”
Each week choose a new neighbourhood to discover. In advance, pick out a bar, breaky or brunch spot to aim for, practice a little people-watching, and go from there. Pepper the locals with questions about their favourite bars, restaurants, shops, galleries, markets, doctors, bus route, tax adviser, rental agency etc.
Take public transport or walk as much as you can to become oriented with the layout of the city and figure out how it all fits together.
Sign up to every local event website you can find, read daily rags and magazines. Your inbox might not thank you but it’s worth it if you end up meeting your future husband/business partner/travel buddy/soul mate…
Give yourself time
“Remind yourself that you’re brave to have taken the plunge – not everyone is as plucky as you.”
The first few weeks can either be awesome or awful. You might be on a high with all the excitement of the move or you could be horribly homesick. Missing home is 100% normal. It will pass. Give yourself a timeframe of, say, three months to reassess how you’re feeling. Whatever you do, don’t jump ship right there and then.
We think it takes at least a year to feel at home somewhere new. So, be kind to yourself and acknowledge that moving is a big disruption to every aspect of your life. Remind yourself that you’re brave to have taken the plunge – not everyone is as plucky as you – and the experiences you’ll have and the friends you’ll meet will be worth every struggle.
Rookie errors to avoid
“…trying to re-create your old life in your new city is a major no-no.”
Constantly Skyping old friends, reminiscing about the past and trying to re-create your old life in your new city are common traps and major no-nos. What lays ahead of you will be just as amazing. Be open to this experience and embrace the unfamiliar: you’ll fall in love, laugh, cry, vomit, sing, fall down, get back up again and form unbreakable bonds to last a lifetime.
Moving to a new city is liberating! Everything is at your finger tips, you’re living in the moment, there’s no one to answer to and no family to “service”. You’ve got all the time in the world. So, go eat ramen on your own with a glass of wine at midnight, spend all Saturday dancing at a music festival, go to that improv class, hike up a mountain with your crew, sit at a café and write: the world is yours for the taking. Endless possibilities and experiences lay before you.
Now, get to it!
Magdalena currently lives in Los Angeles. She is a graphic designer, traveler and air guitarist extraordinaire. She is also the co-founder of Bird an uber-cool website which publishes weekly feature interviews with fascinating women based in New York and Los Angeles.
Are planning a big move soon? Maybe you have moved before and have some great tips to share? We’d love to hear from you in the comments below or head over to the IL Community to keep the conversation a flowin’.
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